Developing the Social Skills for Self Empowerment

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2009
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Today we have a guest blog appearance by Mrs. Robin Tramble, ‘The Empowerment Diva.’ I am on Robin’s email list and she is just a fountain of good news, positive energy, wisdom and inspiration. I thought I’d re-publish this article so that you can get a taste of her style. Please enjoy.

Developing the Social Skills for Self Empowerment

I’m sure you have been influenced by an individual that was so naturally friendly that when put in a room of strangers, they’ll be friends with almost everyone in no time.

This person is referred to as a people-person, someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.

A socially-empowered person achieves so much greatness, basically because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the trust and all-out support of the people, whom he had helped before. He never runs out of help. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind him. All because he knows he maximizes his social potential!

Knowing your social skills and making use of them will allow you to reach self-empowerment.
Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful person. The key is knowing where to start. Below you will find a few keys.

1. Be genuine.

Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be genuinely nice and interested to people. Once they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.

2. Actively listen

To earn the love and trust of the people, listen to their problems and empathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters, and it does. Brownie points when they find out that there is a confidante in you.

3. Have a sense of humor

Be authentic. Don’t force yourself to laugh for every joke cracked by someone, albeit you do not find it funny at all.This means finding humor in things and not being too serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.

4. Don’t forget the importance of self care

In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself, allowing everyone to push you over. Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

5. Do random acts of kindness.

You don’t have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matters the most, and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise you-take-care card or helping an elderly cross the street. When we were kindergarten students, kindness was taught to us and greatly practiced. Now is the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.

6. Restore healthy old relationships

Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7. Develop your personality.

Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, you can’t go through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?

8. Be confident.

Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.

9. Manage your temperament

When angry, don’t snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will find it hard to come to you.

10. Continue to nurture and cherish your relationships.

Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you.

In the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. It’s a win-win situation: the people know they can turn to you anytime and vice versa.

God in you = Empowerment!

Robin Tramble

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